Posts Tagged ‘relationship in crisis’


What is a good Marriage ? How good is good enough ?

December 8, 2009

Community Prayer Service Honors Four Officers Killed In Washington Town

What is a good Marriage ? How good is good enough ? I just read an incredibly interesting piece on Marriage from the NYT sunday Edition.It made me wondering that Marriage and Love are two completely different things even though Love prevents you from wedding any random guy who’s up for, its not necessarily the one component which will make it works.The author left me with severals questions so far uncleared : What would a better Marriage look like ?More happiness? Intimacy? Stability ?Laughter ? Fewer Fights? A smoother partnership?More intriguis conversation?More excellent sex ?

In ” Intimate Terrorism : The Crisis of Love in an Age of Dillusion,” the psychologist Michael Vincent Miller describes marriage as mocking our “fondest dreams”,because the institution is not the wellspring of love we imagine it to be.Instead it’s an environment of scarcity, its ” a barbaric competition over whose needs get met” ; ” it’s ” two people trying to make a go of it on emotional and psychological supllies that are only sufficient for one.”

Miller describes ” the marital ghetto” as ” the human equivalent of a balanced aquarium, where the fish and the plants manage to live indefinitely off each other’s waste products”…


Holiday Dating Guide

December 5, 2009

John Carney likes to catalog the kind of ladies guys should not date. Melissa Lafsky has issued a riposte.Below a selection of the funniest ones..


  1. Avoid dating a girl just because she is your favorite bartender. Where are you going to drink when you want to forget her?
  2. Avoid any girl who really likes girls who blog about their sex lives. She’s just too lazy to ruin your name right now. She’ll find a way later.
  3. Avoid any girl who ever mentions The Box or Beatrice Inn. She has herpes and just wants your for your cocaine.
  4. Avoid any beautiful girl who wears ugly glasses. She thinks she’s in a romantic comedy for teens.
  5. Avoid any girl in a headband. She’s a slave to fashion and will try to make you use expensive hair-products.
  6. Avoid any girl who wants to monopolize your time on New Year’s Eve. The night is too wrought with emotions and memories. Spend time with as many different people as possible or else stay home and alternate heroin and absinthe until you pass out at twenty till midnight. Also, she’s probably on ritalin and won’t share it.
  7. Avoid any girl who knows the names of all the bartenders in more than four bars. She’s out of your league.
  8. Avoid any girl who smells too nice all the time. There’s something strange happening.
  9. Avoid any girl who tells you she wasn’t interested in you when you first met but has now developed feelings for you. She’s just been dumped and is desperate.
  10. Avoid any girl who has rules or tests for men she dates. She should be on anti-psychotics.
  11. Avoid any girl who buys you shoes for Christmas. You will return them for ones you like and she’ll hate you forever.
  12. Avoid any girl who smokes heavier cigarettes than you. You’re already her bitch.

  13. Avoid ballerinas. She’s too flexible and you’ll just wind up hurting yourself.

  14. Avoid any girl who is still angry because her last boyfriend cheated on her. You’ll cheat on her too.
  15. Avoid any girl who lives within two blocks of you. It’s too soon for that kind of proximity.
  16. Avoid any girl who wears jewelry given to her by her ex-boyfriend on your first date. She is still in love with him, and only him, and will still be wondering why no-one else ever gives her anything nice when she’s living with six cats and getting her meals on wheels.
  17. Avoid any girl whose best friend just got dumped by her boyfriend. Together they are a committee of manhaters and you are the next target for hate.


  1. Avoid any guy who watches Gossip Girl.
  2. Avoid any guy who crashes the office Christmas party. He’s there to bang secretaries. Unless he’s unemployed, in which case he’s there to shmooze, pound free booze, and then bang secretaries.
  3. Avoid any guy who keeps old Victoria’s Secret catalogues in his bathroom. Find some respectable Internet porn, for chrissakes.
  4. Avoid any guy with more than 500 followers on Twitter. His virtual ego will be inflated to levels his physical existence can’t match.
  5. Avoid any guy who drinks gin martinis and sneers at vodka. He’ll be shitty in bed.
  6. Avoid any guy who tries to be cool by saying Megan Fox “isn’t that hot.” Please. Vaginas don’t cause blindness.
  7. Avoid any guy who has had naked photos of himself posted on Deadspin.
  8. Avoid any guy who has more than 10 female numbers programmed into his phone. He plans to inseminate all of them, if he hasn’t already.
  9. Avoid any guy who tells you his ex-girlfriend was crazy. He made her that way.
  10. Avoid any guy who shaves more than 20% of his body surface area.
  11. Avoid any guy who claims to have written, be writing, or aspire to write a novel. Seriously. Fucking run.
  12. Avoid any guy who wears ironic glasses. He thinks he’s the geeky-but-sweet hero in an ’80s movie, and that it’ll get him laid.
  13. Avoid any guys who write lists like this and post them on the Internet. They’re under the delusion that they have a chance with any of the women listed.

love, a sweet old fashion notion?

November 15, 2009
Woman photographing man with instant camera, smiling

My friend and i started an interesting conversation on facebook about love an old fashion notion, she thinks so but i dont so here the few things that i ‘ve said to prove my point..please join the conversation..

Oh love certainly does exsist and right now you are ,whether you know it or not, traveling on the road towards it. All these life experiences that you are having along the way, will be of such benefit when you do get to the point of the road, where love is just there, waiting for you. Why do you have to go through bumps in the road, in order to get to the one who loves you and you love in return? Very good question (if I do say so myself LOL)

Well, I am a believer that the bumps make you stronger, help you to get to know yourself better, so that when you reach that point in the road, where that special one has reached that same point, at that same time, you will be able to give, receive and know what true love actually is. You will know yourself so well, and be able to give of who you truly are.

Love still exist but it can be confused sometimes for other feelings such as lust.When we are young and the world is new to us we discover feelings for the first time and they are so strong and powerful we can hardly stand it. But then LIFE shows us what reality is about and we start to pay closer attention to the things around us and are not sooverwhelmed by it all and learn how to cope with people, places, and things on a level as to protect ourselves some what. We go thru many trials and tribulations and thrills, and chills, along the way until one day we are awakened by one of those really clear realities that we love someone and are loved the same way in return. That’s when the whole damn world changes and you could care less about anything except what you and yours are doing.


This Week end Movie

October 22, 2009


Are you ready for ANTICHRIST? The most scandalous work at this year’s Cannes stars Willem Dafoe and Charlotte Gainsbourg as a bereaved couple who retreat to their remote cabin — ominously named Eden — to repair their broken marriage and confront their deepest fears. But in the hands of von Trier, the visionary behind DogvilleDancer in the Dark and Breaking the Waves, the tale of a relationship in crisis takes a turn toward the twisted, dark and primeval, and it’s clear this couple won’t be out of the woods anytime soon. Warning: ANTICHRIST contains scenes of extremely graphic sexual and violent content and is not suitable for children.

“The most talked about film of the year!” – Village Voice                                   “The most shocking film in the history of the Cannes Film Festival!” – The Sunday Telegraph

“I don’t think I breathed for the last half — out of shock, out of stress, out of disbelief.” – Boston Globe

Antichrist’ sure to shock, but it also awes New York Post

Antichrist’: Lost In The Woods, By Kurt Loder

Los Angeles Times – PopMatters – St. Louis Post-Dispatch – New York Magazine

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